First of all, I love that you're embracing your fashiony side! Secondly, I say don't be afraid to shock people. Make the changes overnight if that's what you feel! That's what makes you an interesting individual. I can't recommend any specific looks because I don't know your personal aesthetic. But you can always pick a celebrity or a fashion designer whose style you admire and emulate those looks. (I just Googled "androgynous fashion for men" and a ton of great images came up.) For your hair, all I can recommend is to not let it get too bushy or fluffy and keep your sideburns trimmed. Then let it grow as long as you want. Good luck, sweets!